So I’m sure I am not the only one who is guilty of this…
I have so many items in my wardrobe that I have purchased because I have completely fallen in love with them, totally fantasized about the item changing my life and imagining when and wear I would wow everyone by wearing it. Only to hear that little voice that often spoils the fantasy by whispering “is it a bit much?” or “where will you put the wipes?” Sometimes it was just a doubtful “hmm”. I often quieten that voice by convincing myself that I will save it for a glamorous occasion (because they happen so often these days) and pop it to the back of the wardrobe. Having brought these items because they called out to me and made me smile, I abandon them because self doubt creeps in.
Well this year I made a promise to myself. “Just flaming wear it”. In reality, I am a busy mum, not a girl about town showing off her outfits, but who says I have to give up on those happy clothes? I’m the only one who is stopping myself from enjoying these lovely pieces. I vowed to just wear what I love and not give a toss! Pardon the uncouth expression! Who cares what people think? Who cares if it ends up being covered in mud/snot/raisins? Who cares if the only people that see it is the Hermes lady and the lollipop man? Who cares if all I’m doing in it is picking up Lego and changing beds?
So I begun to go for it and start to wear more of my beloved but slightly bolder pieces in my everyday life. The reaction I received was massively positive and so many women exclaimed “oh I wish I could wear things like that”. This then cued a conversation about why they couldn’t and I’m delighted to say a couple of them even went out and purchased items they didn’t think they could wear such as dungarees and leopard print boots, after our little chats. They delighted in showing them off to me and I was thrilled for them but also had such a feeling of contentment knowing that I had helped them to bring some joy into their wardrobe.
So what are these pieces?
The sequin skirt
I had admired this beauty for weeks but just couldn’t justify buying it when I received a voucher. I thought to myself, you have to get the damned skirt and so I did. After twirling around like a child and hearing my daughter gasp at its shininess, I knew I had made the right choice. The key to this piece is toning done the glitz with more casual items such as a stripey tee and converse. Voila! Totally wearable and you just can’t be miserable in this skirt, I defy you!
The Leopard Print Faux Fur Coat
For as long as I can remember I have admired the leopard print coats worn by the likes of the effortlessly cool Kate Moss. This winter I found my dream one in the form of this New Look beauty. I was instantly in love with it but found myself wondering if I could really pull it off? Well after layering it up and just going with it, I found I totally could. You see it is only ourselves who stop us. I am a total over thinker and this leads me to the path of questioning everything! What a waste of energy? I now wear it with my rockier outfits for that Kate vibe but it looks equally as gorgeous with a little vintage dress or my favorite jeans and stripes.
The embroidered jacket
This beauty stole my heart when I spotted it online. I loved the vibrancy as well as the cheeky slogan. It arrived and I felt my pulse race as I unwrapped it. Throwing it on enthusiastically, I rushed to the mirror. There was that voice again, I suddenly doubted the oversize cut and the bold image. I was worried that maybe I wasn’t “cool” enough to pull it off, however I knew I couldn’t part with it so in a bittersweet moment I hung it neatly alongside its new pals in my wardrobe. Then, the new collections began to filter onto the high street and embroidery was HUGE, what with my new outlook and a sense of creative determination, I dug it back out and cursed myself for ever doubting it. You see, my head had over ruled my heart and we all know the heart should almost always be allowed to win. I mean, check me out above, sequin skirt and embroidered jacket in one outfit!
I guess I am trying to explain that it is only ourselves and our preconceived ideas of what is appropriate for us and our daily lives that sometimes mean we miss out on opportunities for real self expression and well frankly, fun! Clothes should be an extension of yourself and tell your story. That story is not always going to be a fairy tale and won’t always call for a sparkly skirt but at least when it does, be bold and “just flaming wear it”. These pieces can always be tamed for a more every day look by teaming them with simpler items. Don’t miss out, wear what you love. Liberate those gorgeous threads and don’t save them for your Sunday best.
Thank you so much for reading, I would love to hear your thoughts and even better see you “just flaming wearing it”.
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